70. Knowing When it's Time to Pivot in Life

Hello, and welcome to intentionally curious. If you're a positivity on fire subscriber or a regular listener. Don't panic rest assured that you're a hundred percent in the right place. Today, we're talking about when it's time to pivot. And recently I experienced my own pivot of sorts. So for starters, if you have not listened to episode 69 on being intentionally curious, I recommend jumping back into it and giving it a listen before continuing with this episode. So you get a little bit of the backstory. If you don't have the time right now. No worries. Long story short, I've been on a journey of personal growth and development. And this podcast has been a reflection of that journey. Along the way, I've come to discover that life doesn't end in your forties and fifties and living your best life. Doesn't have to be overly complicated. You just need to be willing to get curious about the thoughts that are holding you back, and then intentional about how to let go and move. So while I'm letting go and moving on from the podcast called positivity on fire, I remain committed to exploring the thoughts. We believe that hold us back in life. You know, the ways that we can be intentional about how to let go and move on and how the second half of our lives is not the end, but only the beginning. The good news. Is, I will continue to share my learning, my stories, and in the occasional conversation with guests, all in an effort to help you lead a more intentional life focused on being the best you possible. So how do you know when it's time to pivot, whether it's a job, a relationship, your emotional health, your physical health, or whatever else that might drive you to seek a change in your life? The pivot always seems to come out of nowhere, but does it really. For me, it was an aha moment when working with my coach, I had been experiencing the growth in my business that I had expected. And one of the things my coach said to me is that, you know what, you don't fully believe that it's done. You're not working on the thoughts and feeling you have about being an entrepreneur. And you're definitely not focused on your beliefs about what is holding you back and just like that. Yeah. I was at a pivot point. Okay. Maybe it wasn't just like that. It took about eight months of work to get to the pivot. But when you have an aha moment, it always seems like it comes out of the blue. So how can you determine whether a pivot is actually needed in your life right now? Well, for starters, let's take something from a book. One of my favorites, it's called the lean startup by Eric Reis. Yeah. It's a book about business startups, but what Eric Reis has to say about pivots can be applied to life. So in short Reis says that a pivot is a fundamental change in business strategy. All right. I can hear the questions now you're saying to yourself. Okay. So how would this apply to life? Like how do we apply a, a business strategy to our life? Do we need to make a fundamental change in our life strategy and what is a life strategy anyway, and how does a life strategy fit into our plans? And those are all amazing questions. For starters, let's think of a vision board as the vision for your life. You have goals that you wanna achieve, things that you want to do, trips you want to take. Think of a life strategy, as the plans you create to reach those goals. While an overall vision for your life, doesn't change the goals you create can and do change. And sometimes, sometimes you have to change or pivot from a goal you once set because of circumstances that arise. Now, these circumstances, they can be either internal circumstances you create or external circumstances like being laid off, having a breakup, losing a loved one or any other set of external circumstances that come up in life. The one main thing to remember here is that the one true constant in life is change. And when change comes, it means we need to pivot. but why, why pivot? All right. Well, we pivot in order to try and have a complete and fulfilling life as possible. Right? We want that for ourselves. We want to have a life that's filled with things that make us happy and pivots. They come in all shapes and sizes. Sometimes you pivot in a relationship or out of a relationship. Sometimes you pivot in your circle of friends. Sometimes we have career pivots or where we live or the way that we exercise or how we eat or what we believe about ourselves and, and what we believe about others. So a pivot is just a fancy way of saying change. Like I said, change is a constant, but a pivot happens when we're ready to change. When we embrace that we're are growing and learning as a person, a pivot is something we accept where change is something we are still deciding about whether or not we actually wanna do it. That's what makes change hard. But a pivot happens when we're ready. The easiest way for you to determine right now at this moment, whether or not a pivot is needed in life is just to do an inventory of your life. Many people call this a life wheel exercise, and I do it with my clients, but you can also think of it as a life satisfaction survey or a self-reflection in whatever it is you want to call it. We're just taking a peek inside. What's up in our head. To do this. You'll want to take a notebook, a sheet of paper and write down the following categories on it. Write down relationships, emotional health, physical health, spiritual life, career, and money. Okay. Now that you have that written down, we're gonna do a scale of one to 10. So on a scale of one to 10 mark down, the first number that comes to mind for that area of life. Now do the exercise again, but write down as many things you can think of that would move that number to a 10. If you've rated things, a one, a two, a three or a four, and have very few things you can think of that would move it to a 10. These are areas that need a pivot ASAP, and sometimes you need to help to get you there. Now, if you've had items that were 5, 6, 7, or eight, These would be the next group to tackle any nines and tens. That's awesome. Nines and tens don't mean you don't have anything to work on. We always have something to work on in our lives. It just means they can wait. Now this is important for you to hear. So if you're doing something else, focus on me for just a second, please. Okay. Getting to a 10 doesn't mean you're done. It doesn't mean that part of your life is perfect. We, my friends are all perfectly imperfect and a 10 only means at that moment in time, we can focus on other areas of lives to help improve them. Now, in order for you to make successful pivots in life so that you can reach your vision so that you can reach your goals. There are several things that need to happen. If you've been here a while, you might even be able to repeat them, but here they are, again, you have to be willing. You have to be curious and you have to be intentional when you become willing to see the change that needs to take place in your life. And then become curious about your thoughts about that change and your feelings about that change. then you can start to be intentional about the actions you take to make the change a reality. So you have to be willing. You have to be curious and you have to be intentional. These three things, my friend, they will change your life. They will help you become the best version of yourself and they will guide you when you get stuck. Be willing. Be curious and be intentional. These are the things that, that have helped me along my journey. These are the things that I have started to discover about myself, about the things that make me a better person that help make me be a better coach for others. And it's what has caused me to pivot away from positivity on fire. Now, I don't say that we don't need positivity in the world. We need positivity and kindness now more than ever. So don't stop being positive. Don't stop being kind to both yourself and to others, but being a human is hard. And when you become intentionally curious about the things in your life, that's when you can start to make changes. All right. My friends that's it for this week. Remember your gift of time. Listening to this show does mean the world to me, and remember as always be willing, be curious and be intentional. And until next week, keep doing the work. You've got this.